There are times in our lives when we are filled with exhilaration because of an opportunity to be involved in a project that seems to have real meaning for us. Those are great times. They make us feel like we can contribute, like we can make a difference, that what we think and know matters.
But, there are also times when the exhilaration has left us, when we seem to have lost our joy – even direction – in a project in which we have become involved. The processes frustrate us. We feel depressed about it. We know others are depending on us, but we have lost our ‘spiritual connection‘ to the project. Those are tough times, and leave us wondering whether we should stay or leave. When do you know it is time to leave a project? to say “Sayōnara” and move on?
Well, there is no tried and true formula to answer that question. But, if your values aren’t being met by the way the project is being run or the internal culture it is adopting, it may be that time. Maybe the project’s vision is out of sync with your own or it’s ethics conflict with your own. Either way, you will have a hard time giving your best to the project and feeling fulfilled by it.
Perhaps the people you work with on the project are condescending and no one asks you your opinion or pays any attention to it when you offer one. In such a situation, it may just be time to begin to consider other options.
And certainly, if your friends and family begin to notice that you’re “not acting like the same person they know you to be“, or they become concerned that something is ‘bothering‘ you, it could be a major indicator that the project is making you unhappy to the point where your mood and your health are being effected.
Finally, if your family circumstances have changed – your personal life (marriage, having children, problems), it ‘may‘ make it necessary for you to leave the project in order to better deal with family and personal issues.
Whether it is one or some of the above reasons, or even another not referenced here, the time may come when you ‘have‘ to ask yourself that question: “When is it time to say “Sayōnara?” And when that time comes, it is probably your time to make the break.
It surely won’t be fun, but you will feel a breath of fresh air in your life when it’s done – when you finally face up to and make that decision. Don’t be afraid to do what is right for you. You are the only ‘you‘ you will ever get. Sayōnara!